Have you opened your eyes on a Sunday morning and thought, “It sure would be nice to stay in bed today.” If you haven’t, you’re weird.
And just like most of us have an occasional case of Sunday morning apathy, it’s also common to have the discipling group downers. In fact, this week, I have had this lingering feeling of “I don’t want to.”
Maybe it’s the winter weather and the rain.
Maybe it’s because I’m an introvert.
Maybe it’s connected to my general, everyday habit of procrastination.
Maybe my laziness is actual weariness – physical weariness.
Regardless of my rationalizations, I am pretty sure that I am not alone in this. The night comes for a small group meeting or a discipling meeting and I just want to watch tv. I want to make up an excuse to stay home.
Here’s the cool thing, though. I’ve been here before. This is not the first time I’ve felt this way. And after I push through these feelings and head to meet with my group, I almost always feel better. I generally come home in a good mood…grateful for the time I’ve been able to spend with friends.
So, how do you push through the “I don’t want to’s” and get to the “I’m going to’s?”
- Set your plans in advance. Don’t wait until the day of the meeting to determine where or when you’ll meet.
- Tell your family of your plans a few days ahead of time. When people close to you know that you’re supposed to be somewhere, they will generally nudge you along to make sure you participate.
- Be honest. Instead of making excuses, tell someone else in your group, “I’m struggling with this today” and then ask them to convince you to go.
- Stay faithful to your group throughout the week. Talk regularly. Complete any “assignments” you may have on time. Text encouraging notes to other group members through the week.
- Remember that these gatherings hold eternal value.
- Make sure everyone has a role in the group. It’s much easier to feel motivated for a group when you know that the others are counting on you to play an integral role.
Those are my strategies. But, I’m guessing there are even better ideas among you. So, what do you do when you’re struggling with apathy? Send me a note, or let me know below.
To go a step deeper on this topic, see Michael Hyatt’s post called “3 Actions You Can Take Now to Shift Your Emotional State.”